Focus is one of those things in life that can feel really hard to attain so we might resist against it. Yes, deep down we know that if we spent the time and created the discipline, the pay-offs would be huge for our productivity and ultimately, our freedom.
What is a habit? What do you think of when you hear the word habit? If you’re like most people, you hear the word habit and associate something negative with it. Smoking, overeating, and always being late are all negative habits.
However, habits can and do show up as positive, if you know how to train yourself toward this goal. A habit doesn’t have to have negative associations. Many people, in addition to thinking habits are bad, also think new habits are painful. This does not have to be true either, I fact they can be downright fun.
Once you see how habits are beneficial to you and how they will change your life for the better, you will live a fuller, more productive life.
Belief. Ah, that 6 letter word holds such power. If you look belief up in the dictionary, there are different definitions but most state, “Belief is an acceptance that something exists or is true, especially one without proof, trust, faith, or having confidence in (someone or something.” Often, people will view their beliefs as a fundamental truth and this is where it can get tricky.
We are all hard-wired to create beliefs, many of them we are not even aware of. We create beliefs about ourselves, the existence of a higher power, other people and how the world works. Our beliefs allow us to experience and “make sense” of our world almost from the moment we are born. As children, we believe in our parents and that their ability to protect and support us. As we grow, we continue to add layer our beliefs based on what we learn and what we experience.
What is Causing You to be in Overwhelm?
I know that lots of people are in overwhelm and are feeling like “they are flying by the seats of their pants.” Rather than me giving more information (perhaps overloading you even more) today by giving a whole lot of tips or ideas, I am putting my listening ears on and wanting to know a few things from you and then I will respond in the comments section Perhaps even invite you to a call with me where I will REALLY listen.
So, I am curios- “What is holding you back?” or “What is Causing you to Be in Overwhelm?”
That’s it- I truly want to know and I wish you a wonderful weekend- sue
The Importance of Having Good Listening Skills
We often think we are communicating effectively and of course, we want people to take action on what we say. So it can be frustrating when we talk and share a message and NOTHING happens. Crickets…. Most likely, you were doing only half of what needs to be done to effectively communicate- the talking part. Listening is the other half – perhaps the better half – of all communication. Unfortunately, most people rarely receive any formal training for how to do it properly. Improving your listening skills can enhance your professional and personal life. Follow these practical steps towards becoming a better listener, even in challenging situations where it’s most important.
5 Tips for Better Listening
1. Ignore distractions:
Give the speaker your full attention by looking him/her in the eye. Don’t be looking at your phone or anything else. Let the speaker know you’re interested. Having an appreciative audience makes it easier for people to express themselves. It will also help you stay alert. If you notice your mind wandering, bring it back to the subject at hand.
2. Listen for the main points:
It’s usually more effective to focus on understanding the key points that someone is making, rather than trying to etch each word into your memory. Listen as though you were taking notes even if you’re not.
3. Hear people out.
Let people present what they have to say without being interrupted. Concentrate on what they’re saying rather than formulating your own response. Don’t just wait by patiently until you can have the next word. Listen for understanding.
4. Encourage people to express themselves:
Sometimes people are hesitant to approach a sensitive topic. Use open-ended questions and patient pauses to enable a more complete discussion. Verify the message. With complex or emotionally charged material, it’s important to listen attentively and verify what the other person is saying. You can repeat back a brief summary of the message to be sure you’re both on the same page.
5. Listening with empathy:
One of the best ways to understand what a person is really saying is to put yourself in their shoes. Try to understand their thinking and feelings. Manage your own emotions. When you’re listening to something that evokes a strong emotion, you may need to detach yourself temporarily from your feelings. It’s critical to distinguish between what is actually being said and your own assumptions and emotions.
Remember, God gave you two ears and one mouth for a reason. Becoming a better listener can enhance your own life and help you make a more positive contribution to the lives of others. Enjoy the many benefits of improving your listening skills.
How Personal Is Too Personal for Social Media?
Everyone says that you should show your personal side, even if you’re using social media for your business. Personalizing your content and interactions puts a human face on your business. This is how you build real, authentic relationships. But there are cases where you can be too personal, and you need to steer clear of these or the results could be disastrous.
No “Big Talk”
The type of personal content we share on social media falls under the category of small talk, not “big talk.” You might mention a place you ate today and how it was. You may show a picture of your dog and share a milestone in his or her life. But you would avoid topics like romantic encounters, touchy political issues, or things that annoy you about certain people, unless those topics are a central part of your branding. We have all seen how too much politics has made people cranky and frankly rude to one another- even leading to the “unfriending” behavior that is happening all too frequently.
Sharing (too many) Problems
Venting and complaining about your problems is more likely to annoy than engage. However, there is a right way to discuss problems that can actually boost engagement. The way to do it is to share a problem you faced that is also a common problem of your audience. Get them to discuss the problem with you. Even better, offer a solution to this common problem or ask your audience to share theirs.
Oops, I Shouldn’t Have Said That
Before posting anything personal, remember that this goes on your permanent record. Read back over it to make sure it isn’t something that might come back to haunt you later. Once you unleash it upon the world, it could be there forever.
Keep in mind that any personal information you put out there could be accessed by data collectors for nefarious or otherwise malevolent reasons. If you publish something like your address or share pictures of your children, this could compromise your identity or safety.
That’s Not What I Meant
Before posting, always read your content to make sure that it won’t get taken the wrong way. Stories abound on the internet of people making a harmless joke that blew up in their faces and caused major damage to their brand image. Everyone may not be “in on it,” so make sure that your content won’t be misunderstood.
Think about Others
Finally, tread very carefully with the privacy of others. Don’t share personal details about other people unless these are things you know they are open about, themselves. You can always ask them to make sure before posting.
As you get more and more social, remember the goal is to be engaging and inviting so you can connect with more people.
Sometime for you to consider this weekend… In this rush, rush, busy, hurry up world of ours, it is easy to have a sense of overwhelm. Sometimes it feels too hard to stop and spend some quiet time to relax, unwind and find your center. And yet, this is crucial. It is in creating that space that we allow ourselves to feel at peace.
Beyond Overwhelm and Busy to Relaxed and Focused
I am often called the “Queen of Busy” because I am Mom to 3 active kids, I am a business owner, and I also have another job teaching at the graduate level. So how does the “Queen of Busy” stay out of overwhelm? I start my day by creating a space for peace. I get up early and I start my day sitting in my hot tub. Start my day relaxed and creating my thriving mindset by setting intentions, I decide how I am going to experience my day. We each get to CHOOSE every moment of every day and how we respond to what is happening to us. I choose to respond in a positive way that allows me to stay connected and focused on how I was to feel and what I want to achieve.
Although the world is filled with negative influences, I avoid being distracted by them. I remain calm and composed because I embrace the influence of quiet time. I have already created my focus for the day, even before it fully begins.
Listen to what your heart is telling you
When I stop and listen, I am confident that I can handle whatever happens throughout my day and I am able to stay on course with my intentions. I am confident to rise when I have challenging days or are confronted by difficult people. Calm energy envelops each circumstance and produces positivity. Take the time to Listen to the sounds of your breath and you too will relax. Taking deep breaths in and out will calm your mind and your soul.
Deep breathing produces a quietness that betrays the noise around you. It creates a forcefield that will protects you and gives you a peaceful disposition that aptly tackles the toughest moments.
Be Aligned with your Purpose
Being one with my purpose is important to accepting what life throws your way. When you quietly accept who you are, there are very few things that will be able to rattle your nerves. You will respond to people, projects, circumstances with an enthusiasm that you may not have known was even possible. Let that out! Let your purpose and your gifts shine on everyone around you.
Today, give yourself some downtime to enjoy connecting with self, family and friends, your environment and NOTICE how you feel. You can connect to this sense of calm and ease whenever you choose. Approach life from a place of peace and calm and you will experience how much easier and in the flow you can be even when you are very BUSY.
So here is my last question to you?
What do you do to achieve some quiet time when you are constantly on the go?
There are times in our lives when things “Happen” and we feel are out of our control which can lead to feelings of frustration, sadness and a general sense of being stuck. I am all about moving forward so here is a quick Top 10 list to living as your Best Self. Feeling your best allows you to smile more, stay out of overwhelm and just plain Love your LIFE and Thrive! This takes a little bit work (hey the payoffs are huge so a little work is not so bad.)
So here it is, The 10 Things Everyone Should Do to Be your Best Self:
- Manage your time:– everyone has the same 24 hours each day. So learn to use yours most effectively so you can spend more of your time doing what makes your heart sing.
- Set goals: To set a goal, you need to know what you want. That is half the battle. Spend some time each week reflecting on what you really want and doing things that move you toward your goals.
- Listen: Do you listen to others or are you really just waiting to say something next? When you are thinking of what to say, you are not fully present with the other person. Few people truly listen. Be one of the unique who really do and you will see your conversations and relationships deepen.
- How to have a conversation with someone new: Every person you know now was a stranger at some point in time. Learn how to engage and chat with new people and your perspective on the world will change.
- Apologize: Hey, we all make mistakes. No one is perfect. Learn to accept responsibility and apologize easily and your relationships will be much smoother.
- Back up your computer: As someone who recently experienced a computer melt-down, I emphatically recommend that you do this on a regular basis. You can not act as your best self is you don’t have the tools to support you and most of us use a computer to support us. Just consider the havoc you would face if you computer died on your today. Be proactive and back-up.
- Eat properly: Nothing impacts your health more than the food that you eat. You can not be your best self if your health is not optimal. Learn what are the best food choices and make them on a daily basis. Your energy, confidence and feeling of well-being will sky-rocket.
- Ask for help: This may be the most important of all in order to living your best life. You can’t do it alone!
- Receive: Not only do you need to ask, you must receive help graciously. Whether it is help, money, advice or anything else, you won’t get much of it unless you are open to receiving it. So ASK, then RECEIVE.
- Find your voice and use it: Everyone has a message to share and when you are sharing it, you are connecting to others in a powerful way. Learn how to effectively deliver your message so you can reach more people.
So, as you look through the list, see where you are already and what you can improve to help you Be your Best Self and Live your Best Life.
Values are a key component of how we think, what we believe and how we show up in the world. When you create you life and business based on what you value, you experience greater connection and passion.
What is Important to you Changes on a Regular Basis
Interestingly, your values can also be a window into how you are feeling on a particular day and thus what is important to you right at this moment. So for fun, take a look and share what are the first 3 words you see. Are you surprised? OR did they reinforce what you already know is going on for you right now. Share what you see and your reaction to it. Consider how you might use this as you move through your day. ENJOY!